Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless
him and grant him peace, said, "The best sadaqa is that which leaves
you free of want. The upper hand is better than the lower hand. Begin with
those you look after. Your wife says, 'Spend on me or divorce me.' Your
slave says, 'Spend on me or sell me.' Your child asks, 'On whom can we
rely?'"
حَدَّثَنَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ مُوسَى، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا بَقِيَّةُ قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنِي بَحِيرُ بْنُ سَعْدٍ، عَنْ خَالِدِ بْنِ مَعْدَانَ، عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ، سَمِعَ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ: مَا أَطْعَمْتَ نَفْسَكَ فَهُوَ صَدَقَةٌ، وَمَا أَطْعَمْتَ وَلَدَكَ وَزَوْجَتَكَ وَخَادِمَكَ فَهُوَ صَدَقَةٌ.
Al-Miqdam heard the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, say, "What you feed yourself is sadaqa. What you feed your
child, your wife and your servant is sadaqa."
Abu Hurayra said, "The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, commanded sadaqa. A man said, 'I have a dinar.' He said,
'Spend it on yourself.' He said, 'I have another.' He said, 'Spend it on
your wife.' He said, 'I have another.' He said, 'Spend it on your servant
and then on whomever you see fit.'"
Ma'rur said, "We passed by Abu Dharr and he was wearing a garment
and his slave had a robe on. We said, 'Why do you not take this and give
this man something else instead of the robe?' He replied that the Prophet,
may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Allah has put your brothers
under your authority. If someone has his brother under his authority, he
should feed him from what he eats and clothe him from what he wears and
not burden him with what will be too much for him. If he burdens him with
what will be too much for him, he should help him.'"
